What Rights Do You Give Yourself By Not Being Self-aware?

Being self-aware is a social skill people sometimes voluntarily give up, to avoid conflict. Some do it because they simply do not like to be assertive. People value the ability highly as children, but when they grow up they struggle to defend their own rights.

Either way, self-awareness is necessary if you want to be a part of the world without being hurt. Otherwise you will end up being a victim of people you do not know how to cut out of your life.

In this article, we will mention some simple rights you will be able to defend if you take a self-conscious stand.

If not, people will try to limit these rights if you leave them.

Being self-aware: The right to be your own judge

You have the right to form and protect your own opinions. Others should not judge you for them or force you to change them. You should be able to develop your own opinions and your own judgment regardless of popular opinions.

This right means that you can have a specific opinion and express what you believe in. Regardless, when you find that what you believe in and your actions do not match and you do not know how to easily solve it, it can feel uncomfortable.

An example is people who think that smoking is bad for your health, but sell cigarettes yourself. Or people who give in to temptation but can’t stop bothering themselves with it.

When you defend the right to judge who you are and what you do, you can do so in relation to what you believe in and not others. You can decide which reference points to use and how high to set the list.

The following examples of thought patterns are something that can sabotage this right:

• “If I can not convince others that my goals are worth something, it is because I am wrong or because my desires are unacceptable.”
• “We have to keep things to ourselves. The goal is to listen and learn. ”

The right to choose what we will take responsibility for

The duties you are responsible for include taking care of yourself and your children, if you have children. All other duties, you can choose to accept or not, depending on your own criteria and no one should judge you for it.

You can give your colleagues help if you see that they are struggling, but you are not obliged to do so, unless it is stated in your job description or you have previously agreed to it.

You have the right to put your own interests ahead of others’ and if you do not, you deserve recognition for prioritizing others when you should not.

Some people just know how to take this right away from other people. Think of children who leave the room cluttered all the time, because they know their mother will quickly clean it up. Think of the colleague who asks someone else for help and then blames them for a mistake that is made.

The right to withhold an explanation

This right is often violated in romantic relationships. Some people tell others what they want to hear, to make them shut up, or because they are afraid of getting angry. And that, because they think they are required to do so.

Explanations are courtesy you can choose to show or not. No one needs to know what you are doing or how to do it. If people can exercise this right as a defender in a lawsuit, why not when it comes to other judgments?

There are certain situations that make people demand an explanation. People who are jealous often stop asking for explanations because they want to feel safe. But you should know that you are not obligated to give in, even if they are so persistent that it goes from a question to a demand.

You have the power to choose what you want to share with others. This is great because it allows you to control your privacy and choose who you want to entrust it to.

Other rights you can defend by being self-aware

So far, we have described some of the most important rights you can defend by being self-aware. Here is a brief overview of a few more:

• The right to change one’s mind.
• The right to make mistakes.
• The right to say “I do not know.”
• The right to do things without other people’s approval.
• The right to choose things that are not logical, consistent or popular.
• The right not to understand or respond to the expectations of others.
• The right to be imperfect.

There are people who will be tempted to violate any of these rights, whether consciously or unconsciously. Regardless, it is up to you to be respectfully self-aware and to defend yourself.