Relationships: To Exhaustion You Separate!

When we start a relationship, it is normal to feel full of hope and joy, in the seventh heaven. If all goes well and you want to make a long-term commitment, you can move in together or get married. What many may not know is that exhaustion can end up in the famous motto: “until death do you part”.

Sometimes it is difficult to explain how you can go from 0 to 100 in a few months or years. What really happens to a relationship to get us to the point where we can not handle the other person’s weirdness or shortcomings? Is it to live together? Lack of time for oneself? The waning passion?

How do things go from passion to exhaustion separating you?

Disappointment is one reason why exhaustion replaces passion. When a couple has just moved in with each other and live together, it makes sense that everything is full of excitement and happiness. But remember that you will eventually see a different side of them.

When it comes to distributing housework and expenses, it is common for small conflicts to arise. We want to be able to solve them in a friendly way. But it is very possible that what you see in your partner disappoints you. Perhaps certain attitudes or behaviors that you never knew about will surprise you and even disappoint you completely.

Another reason is indifference. This is the fruit of a long and unfriendly coexistence. You may develop feelings of apathy, disgust or rejection towards the other person. This is when everything they do seems like the beginning of an argument or confrontation, something wrong that they need to change.

You argue about irrelevant things, and there is no room for error. Until there comes a day that you literally “do not care anymore”. You resign and live unhappily in stagnation until exhaustion separates you.

Watch out for exhaustion and routine

The daily routine, lack of enthusiasm and spontaneity, absence of surprises and fun, fragile foundations, a lack of common hobbies… Exhaustion has many causes. But the real cause of exhaustion in a relationship comes from the two people themselves.

If you feel down or do not want to go out, let your partner know. It may not help you to find any relief, but then you can at least let them know how they can help you. Similarly, if you always follow the same routine with your partner, in the end, it leads to unwanted exhaustion.

For example, if you usually go to the movies on Fridays, there are two ways to look at this. As an activity that you do to get out of the routine and to have fun together; or as a predictable commitment without any tension. The first one is better, right?

Attitudes that promote exhaustion

Lack of trust, becoming a victim of jealousy, insecurity, feelings of inferiority, lack of honesty. We tend to take on some of these attitudes when we are in a relationship. And all of them can cause exhaustion to separate you. Therefore, if you want to maintain your relationship for a long time, you need to take the initiative to talk and improve communication.

Another very common mistake that causes people to break up is a lack of support. Often, when we have a problem and try to talk about it, we stop ourselves because we are convinced that the other person will not understand. And even worse, sometimes when we talk about it, we do not feel safe or protected or understood by them. To avoid this, make empathy your life partner.

Finally, lack of time is another major enemy of a healthy relationship. It is important to take a few minutes each day to talk to your partner. A warm touch or simple eye contact can really fill them up with energy. Stress and working too much are serious risk factors.

The solution is communication

As you can see, having a healthy and stable relationship is not always easy; it requires effort and conscious involvement from both parties. We are also dealing with stereotypes and stigmas from the society around us, such as how men should not talk about emotions or that women talk about emotions too much.

Women, due to stereotypes and social roles that they have had to play, tend to be more communicative. At the same time, men should be protective and tough, and thus also quieter.

Usually, a lack of good communication in relation is the reason why they end up. If something bothers you about your partner – for example, that they never put their clothes in the laundry basket or do not go out with the garbage – it is best to tell them. Not for the purpose of arguing or criticizing, but to express your thoughts.

In addition, success is not just in pointing out negative things and the need to change them . The most important thing is love. Therefore, you also need to communicate the positive things about your partner. Do not forget to point out what they did well and what you like.

Nobody is perfect

By making your partner aware of what is bothering you, you may be able to iron it out or change it. And if you do not, do not take it personally; understand that no one is perfect. As your partner, you also want your quirks.

On the contrary, if you choose not to say anything about it, you will not only omit information that can enrich your relationship, but you will also make yourself feel less and less happy. Eventually you will explode over a small thing. To communicate is to live. What you do not say, and what the other does not know, does not exist in the first place. Make sure you avoid exhaustion.