Is It Good To Be Friends With Our Ex-boyfriend?

Much has been said about why it is neither the best choice, nor the healthiest, to remain friends with our ex-boyfriend. There is always a chance that we can fall for each other again and thus also fall into the same dynamic, the one we did not like to begin with. This happens even if the relationship has changed.

There are experts who believe that it is better to cut them completely out of your life after a breakup, and instead build a life where there is no room for old partners. On the other hand, we have those who think differently and defend the idea that a person with whom you have had a good relationship can continue to add something positive to your life, even after a breakup.

Some reasons why you should not be friends with your ex-boyfriend

If you had a toxic relationship, it’s not good for you to be friends with your ex-boyfriend. This is a person who has not added anything positive to your life and who has instead drowned you in a sea of ​​problems. A particularly serious case within the framework of toxic conditions is whether there has been abuse or mistreatment.

On the other hand, we all know that just because a relationship ends does not mean that love, from a romantic perspective, has necessarily disappeared from the hearts of those who were in the relationship. If the feelings are mutual, and remain with both parties – then it is common for a couple to find each other again. Unless circumstances, such as those we have mentioned earlier, have taken place.

If the feelings are not mutual, breaks tend to be complicated. The person who is still in love easily ends up in quarrels about closeness and distance. Their feelings make them want their old partner close at the same time as the feeling of being abandoned pushes them away. Therefore , this form of breakup tends to totally ruin the relationship.

One of the best arguments for ending a friendship with an old partner is to avoid conflict with the new one. If there’s one thing that can make a person jealous, it’s their better half old flame. Former girlfriends are seen by their current partner as a source of temptation for their partner. One of the weakest points in their relationship and that can ruin for the love they now share.

It is therefore not uncommon for a new partner to demand that we end the friendship with an ex-boyfriend. Usually they do it in an indirect way; by creating so much conflict that the partner eventually can no longer bear it and ends the friendship. However, this is not a dead end: mature people can handle the situation and adapt to avoid conflicts and breaks.

Is there a positive side?

It can do that. Ending love does not mean that a relationship does. People who once loved each other tend to always care about each other, even if the way they do it changes. Those who are important to you do not cease to be important, regardless of whether you keep in touch or not.

A former partner knows us, knows what hurts us and knows what we dream about. Maybe love has ended, but they can still read our facial expressions and there is still a kind of understanding between us, which is very difficult to achieve. These are wonderful relationships that have taken years to build, because we so abruptly cut them out of our lives.

Why can they not continue to make us happy ? Why can they not continue to add positive things to our lives. Right now, I can not come up with a universal cause that is good enough to answer these questions.

Keeping in touch with an old partner is a personal choice that involves risk and can lead to conflict. However, it can also be a source of happiness and other approaches, even if it does not come from the same place as before. It is you who must be the intelligent and keep in mind some of the circumstances we have previously mentioned, as well as others you may come up with. Based on this, you must try to make the best decision yourself.

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