I Want To Be A Mother, But I’m So Scared

Times have changed a lot, and so has our understanding of being a mother. In some ways it has changed for the better, but with these changes come some myths that make some women feel intimidated. Some women who want to have children decide not to have it because they are overwhelmed by the complexity of being a mother. The good thing is that you are the only one who can decide if you want to be a mother or not. This is a big victory for women because there was a huge social pressure to have children until very recently.

The problem is that some women have gone to the other extreme. They believe that having a child is something that is so complicated that it is better to avoid it completely. They no longer see it as a natural part of life. No extreme is good. In the end, the only thing that really matters is that each woman is responsible for her own desires and decisions.

Fear of being a mother

Being afraid of being a mother is perfectly normal. After all, motherhood drastically changes your life. You must also accept some physical and mental pain. Who would not be afraid?

That being said, this fear sometimes comes from other sources. Maybe you’ve heard stories from older women that made a big impression on you. Until recently, women had to give birth in very difficult conditions. They were often unprepared for the experience and most of the time they did not receive proper care from doctors and nurses.

Some women decide not to become mothers because they think they are not prepared for it. The truth is that no one is really prepared to be a mother. We are usually not prepared for what happens to us. We are not ready to grow up, or separate from people we love, or grow older, etc.

Another reason why some women decide not to have children is that life is difficult. They do not want to pass on anxiety, depression or other problems to their children. However, this can be a bit of an extreme attitude. There is no way to completely avoid suffering, loss or error. Despite all this, life can be beautiful. There are many wonderful experiences waiting.

Don’t let fear stop you from being a mother

Whatever the source of the fear, it is important that you do not let it keep you from fulfilling your dreams. If you really want a child, fear should not get in the way. Instead of letting fear prevail, take some time to reflect. Look inside yourself, analyze the situation, and think about why you feel scared.

Where does your fear come from? Is it affordable or not? Do you really want to be a mother, or are you afraid because you really do not want to be a mother, but feel pressured? You should reflect on these things. You can also find out what your health plan offers if you decide to have children, or how your options are for childbirth and pediatric treatment.

It is very important to know what is covered and included, and which hospitals and doctors are in your network. You can also check if the health personnel offer courses for expectant parents for you and your partner.

Make your wishes clear

In addition to everything we have already said, take an overview of your current situation. Is this a good time to bring a child into the world? Do you have the support of your partner? Does your family support you? These are really important factors to consider before making a decision. But the final decision is of course up to you. Being a mother or deciding not to be a mother will not make you happy if you do it to please others.

You also need to take a look at your finances. It does not take millions of kroner to raise a child, but you should be able to offer them some stability. You also need to make sure that you have enough time to devote to them.

When you go through these steps and assess your situation, it will probably be easier to decide what you want to do. If you want to be a mother, fight to make it happen in the best way you can.