Guilt And Its Two Best Friends: Doubt And Uncertainty

Guilt never comes alone, and it can appear in our lives for a variety of reasons. Sometimes we torture ourselves for what we did if the outcome was not what we expected. Other times it follows us because we have not had enough courage to do or say something that now eats us up inside. It is in this second case that guilt appears in our lives, accompanied by their two best friends, doubt and insecurity.

That is when doubt takes over our decisions, and our uncertainty determines that it is better not to do anything. After all, what if you lose what you have? Then the guilt settles down. It makes us sad and paralyzed, and we wonder what could have happened instead of accepting the reality of our inability to move forward.

Doubt, the captain of our army of fear

Doubt sees us and reminds us, at very strategic moments, of the times when we did something that went wrong. Situations when we hurt someone unintentionally or fooled ourselves completely. In short , doubt is responsible for multiplying our problems, until it makes us question everything we are or have done.

But that’s not all. As our discomfort increases, doubt calls on its army, made of all our fears, and it marches in. And that is when the images of all the bad things that can happen take over our minds and keep us from making the decision we really want to make.

All we want is to be happy and healthy and live without suffering, but this is where doubt takes advantage of us and attacks again. We fall back into fear and guilt, and insecurity attaches to doubt and binds us when we try to feel better, even though we know it is a part of life.

Uncertainty, the links that hold us tight

Then uncertainty shows its face, which makes us doubt ourselves and our actions. It links us, because we are afraid of falling again if we try again. When we are insecure, we lose our footing, our  self-confidence. We lose our emotional balance and allow a hostile environment to grow inside us. This is where our self-image becomes blurred in a root of fear that does not reflect what we are, but rather what we are afraid of being.

Thus, we chain ourselves to the possibility of a bleak future that is not real, despite how we act. And then we prove that  our self-confidence can take us a step further, but that a lack of it anchors us to constant negative self-evaluation, directed at the things we could do.

That is why,  when guilt arises in your life, along with doubt and uncertainty, you need to focus on the present, on what is real. This will help you overcome it. Besides, it will also make you the best version of yourself. You will eventually reach your potential because the boundaries you set for yourself are washed away by reality.