Emotionally Empty People Can Make You Lonely

They say the world is full of empty people. They are bodies with hollow souls that need to spy on the feelings of others to feel useful and important in loneliness. To feel alive.

There are several types of loneliness. The one we appreciate the most is the one who allows us to get in touch with ourselves. It means listening to ourselves and enjoying ourselves. Furthermore, it means knowing how to love ourselves.

However, there is another type of loneliness, it is both destructive and dangerous. It is the one you feel when you share your time and your life with people who, even though they are important to you, are empty. They are important to you because you have chosen to have them in your life. You may even have projected your emotions and even intense emotions on them. However, you gradually realize that they are actually harming you.

Understanding the process by which you can fall in love with an empty person is complicated. However, you can also have friends and close family with this property. Therefore, what should you do in the face of such emotional weaknesses and lack of empathy and reciprocity for yourself and your integrity? Let’s take a look.

Emotional loneliness in empty people

Plato said that “empty barrels fall the most”. This symbolic phrase underscores the fact that empty people tend to be extremely noticeable. In fact, they have an unmistakable effect on our lives.

But why do we define these people as empty? Furthermore, what is behind their behavior?

1. Lack of emotional reciprocity

We are not going to have a debate about the existence of the soul or not. Although this is the first thing you usually think of when you hear the phrase “empty people”. What we mean by the term, however, is the “non-existence” of a number of basic dimensions in this type of person. For example:

• They are not able to project themselves on others to understand, empathize and understand the personal perspective of the person in front of them.
• Their behavior is based on a set of unconscious rules. These say that they and their own needs always come first.
• Their rules are unconscious, because these people always act automatically, without evaluating the results. Furthermore, there is no room for misunderstandings in their lives. Making mistakes is a weakness that they simply cannot afford.

• Empty people are not good at listening or opening up to others. In fact, if they ever do, it will only be to their own advantage.

The need to submit and “connect” with someone who is more emotional than them

In their world , they simply seek to pull the strings so that others fill their unimaginable voids. In addition, they cover the shortcomings by manipulating the feelings of others. However, they are never generous or altruistic. Nor do they have a love of life. This is because there is never any middle ground or balance with them.

In fact, they tend to swing between the extremes. It’s all or nothing. For example, they may love excessively to meet their need. But once their needs are met, they will show absolute indifference. This makes your partner feel desperately lonely.

How to deal with life with empty people

The first thing you think about is getting away from them. But we are talking here about feelings and people that you can be extremely close to. Therefore, you probably need to think carefully before deciding whether or not to end these relationships altogether.

You will experience many different types of relationships throughout your life. There may be some empty people that you get along with better than others. It is entirely up to you what you ultimately decide to do. Ask yourself what each of these conditions gives you. For example, even if they lack empathy, you know that they are kind-hearted at heart. In fact, if you have a good relationship with them, it may be time to sit down and have an honest and friendly conversation with them.

Getting someone to see their “mistakes” does not always have to be negative. In fact, someone may often approach you to correct something they think you are doing wrong. Through their advice, you can find out if you think they are right or not, or if they just want to hurt you. If the empty person is not working to reflect on himself and does not convey any positive emotions, it is probably time to say goodbye to them.

Sometimes one personality type fits well with another. One thing is for sure, though. It’s the fact that people do not change from one day to the next, no matter how much you wish they did. With this in mind, you must always protect your own emotional balance and integrity.

What you can do

Let’s see what resources you can use in practice:

• With relatives. If you have a father, mother or sibling in your immediate circle who behaves cold and empty, try to disable the meaning they have in your daily life as much as possible. Remove their meaning and authority from your life.
• Do not make the mistake of behaving like them. Always show integrity. Confront situations by making it clear who you are and what defines you.
• Romantic relationships. If you know that your partner is an extremely empty person, tell them how you feel, what you can accept and what you can not accept.

You are not an empty being. You have feelings and emotional needs that need to be reciprocated. If this does not happen, nothing will change. In that case, you need to consider your next step.

There is no worse loneliness than the kind you feel from empty devotion.