When You Feel Lonely In Your Relationship

It can be extremely painful when you feel lonely in your relationship. It hurts not to know why your partner is emotionally indifferent. After all, the point of a relationship is to feel loved and to have your partner’s company. Few types of loneliness are as problematic or as common.

Gustavo Adolfo Becquer said quite wisely that loneliness is very beautiful as long as you have someone to talk about it with. However, many people with many followers on social media still feel alone and disconnected from their surroundings. Not only does it cause psychological distress but also health problems.

This is not a new problem. People have always struggled with loneliness in their relationships. Researchers are discovering more about this phenomenon that affects people of all ages thanks to modern studies on loneliness. Both younger and older couples experience isolation and emotional indifference.

What is the reason you are lonely in your relationship?

Some of the most intense sadness stems from the cold silence between two people who swore to love each other forever. Sometimes a partner forgets his promise and instead chooses (consciously or unconsciously) to be emotionally indifferent to his partner.

This type of situation usually does not happen overnight. Psychological alienation often creeps unnoticed. It happens when you stop paying attention to the things you enjoyed together before. It happens when you forget details, stop listening to your partner or when you go through the motions and stop making an effort.

Alienation in a relationship has serious consequences. Seeing your partner become more and more distant is very painful and also has other consequences. Experts such as Dr. Aaron Ben-Ze’ev, a psychologist and relationship expert, explain the following:

• It is important to distinguish between being alone and being lonely. Being alone means that no one is physically with you. Being lonely, on the other hand, is a psychological reality that is becoming more and more common. Surprisingly, it is people in relationships who experience it the most.
• This type of loneliness often leads to depressive disorders and anxiety. According to studies conducted by Dr. Greg Miller at the University of Manchester, loneliness is as dangerous to your health as smoking or having a sedentary lifestyle.

Let’s analyze some of the reasons why you may feel lonely in your relationship.

To stop being in love and fear of change

Sometimes stopping being in love is like feeling a cold breeze and not knowing where it’s coming from. Suddenly things seem meaningless, unexciting and boring even though nothing has changed.

It is not always a concrete reason to stop falling in love. Sometimes it just happens and it’s confusing for both involved. If you are clearly aware that you no longer love your partner, you should talk about how you feel. Cheating on your partner (or fooling yourself) can have serious consequences. One of these exposes your partner to emotional indifference no matter how much you try to hide it.

To get stuck in your routine

You are more likely to feel lonely in your relationship when your daily routine becomes overwhelming. With work, children and responsibilities, you may not have time left for love or to be reunited.

Your conversations even become mechanical when it happens, without any love and intimacy. One way to deal with this is to try to change things or seek professional help. Being passive will not solve the problem in any of the cases.

What if you are the reason you feel lonely in your relationship?

Sometimes you reach a point in your life where you just feel inexplicably empty. It is a mixture of dissatisfaction, existential crisis and fear of change.

These situations are more common than you think. Some people feel lonely in their relationships because they have changed and cope with the frustration of not having what they want. In this case, it is easy to blame your partner for not being able to give you what you want even if no one is directly responsible. The truth is, though, that your loneliness stems from your change.

You have evolved and your perspective has changed. What you like and dislike, needs and motivations have also changed. Maybe you want to be on a different track professionally, be more independent or you long for new social contacts. People are living in a state of constant change, and these changes can affect your relationship.

We can conclude that it is common to feel lonely in your relationship. It is also the cause of many fractures, mainly because it causes suffering, mental problems and health problems, but also because no one should have to experience this type of pain or its consequences.

You should therefore try to get to the bottom of it if you experience this type of loneliness. Find the reason for that. Talk to your partner and try to come up with sincere, respectful and responsible solutions.