Your Emptiness Hides Behind Your Exaggerations
Your emotional emptiness reminds you that you have something unfinished in your life, which fills you with frustration. You can try to fill that emptiness with exaggeration, drink alcohol until your senses are foggy, wear yourself out for exercise, eat your emotions or act compulsively. But after doing these things, the desperation is still there, and maybe even worse than before.
The feeling of emptiness can cause emotional blockage, so you do not confront the reality of things. It all ends up with you trying everything you can to make up for what you are missing.
Filling your emotional emptiness is not easy, but exaggeration is not the answer. Many of your worst emotions and feelings will only get worse. You will end up feeling like you have been dropped into a really deep well. To put it another way, you feel helpless and it appears when you react inappropriately to painful situations.
When you give up everything, exaggerations will seem like the only way to fill you up. Any normal pleasant behavior will be in danger of becoming a psychologically addictive behavior. A normal behavior can become abnormal, depending on the intensity, frequency, or how much it disturbs your personal relationships.
If you feel that you can not confront your emptiness, you will turn to exaggeration
Exaggerations are what your life looks like, even if you deny it. This vicious cycle, in which you use exaggerations to fill your emptiness, but then they only get bigger, will only end when you face what forces you to act negligently.
When you fail to confront a problem, a barrier rises between you and what you have to confront. And this will only mean more excessive behavior. There are danger signs that you may fall into excessive behavior as a way to put a nice mask on a dark reality, and they include:
- To avoid activities
- Feeling nervous on a daily basis
- Trembling
- Loss of motivation
Calling everything a “need” can actually be a big part of the problem. Your emptiness comes from your needs, and your exaggerations come from your emptiness. Identifying what your needs are is important if you want to understand your emptiness. Moderate needs are normal and healthy. The problem is when it gets out of control.
You have to be brave to see what you are missing
There is nothing like learning about yourself to fill your emptiness inside. Many people who go into therapy and say that they have such a feeling of emptiness do not know themselves very well. They have gone a long way without updating the self-image they created so long ago.
They are aware that they are different and that the years have passed. They know they are not who they used to be, but they do not know who they are now. When a feeling of anhedonia takes over and you do not know what is happening – or why it is happening – that is when it is time to act. You have to be brave and accept that something is not right.
Seeing what you are missing also means that you really reflect on your emotional needs. It goes far beyond trivial, material things and what other people expect of you. You must be very brave to accept that you are far from living the life you want, what you dreamed of as a child. Only a complete, whole person is able to admit what they are missing and accept their mistakes.
Only a person who looks at himself with loving, positive eyes, is ready to accept himself and make his desires part of his identity, dynamics and natural change in a harmonious way.
