Character Motivates You To Do The Right Thing, Not The Simple

Our character is the most important of all virtues. However, it requires courage, honesty and loyalty to oneself. Only a strong character allows us to sleep with a clear conscience and to always do what is right, not what is easy or what others want us to do. Thus, character is an exceptional mental attitude and the essence of our personality.

People often say, a little carelessly at times we have to admit, that a person who is like this and like that has no character or that he and his character are too intense. And others say that character, more than simple physical appearance, is what is really attractive about a person. All this leads us to conclude that we are looking at a very relevant aspect of what it means to be a human being. And we use factor to categorize other people.

People often think that character and personality are the same. That’s not exactly right. In psychology, character is part of the basis of personality, along with temperament and skills. In fact, many psychologists who are dedicated to studying this interesting part of our personalities explain that it greatly affects the rest of the psychological dimensions.

In other words, it is the fifth essence of our being.

Grade is our educated will

All of us have strengths of our character. Our internal values ​​that take us further when we need it most. But where do they come from? How is this fascinating psychological craft built? We would dare to say that it is a subtle combination of our genes, our environment and the result of  experiences  we have experienced. Many would define it that way. But there is something else that is even more inspiring and uplifting in this story.

A person does not form his character within a day or two. There is a certain willingness involved, an awakening when the person, sooner or later, should become aware of their unyielding thoughts and limited attitudes that were instilled in them at school, or even of the invisible “barcodes” that society writes into our mind to anticipate us.

Character is also a personal choice, an accumulated strength that allows us to finally dare to react. It helps us to appreciate our essence and individuality. It guides us so that we know what is right in every moment and can act on it. Aristotle himself once said that character is where moral duty and personal inclinations come together. When combined, they should have only one purpose: to act nobly according to what is right. Only then can we ensure our dignity, integrity and well-being in society itself.

The three pillars of character

One thing we have been able to understand until now (and which we should not lose sight of) is that each of us is responsible for our character. Authors and experts on the subject, Renne Le Senne or Gaston Berger, tell us that our character does not show itself definitively in childhood or adolescence. In fact, this complex synthesis that shapes our values, emotions, and attitudes will calm down over time.

Thus, it is always a good time to file down our rough edges or polish certain properties that allow us to handle our daily surroundings better.

The same authors point out that our character formation depends on how we interpret, approach or prepare for three specific factors. Let’s take a closer look.

Emotions

Emotions refer to our ability to produce certain emotions when we receive certain stimuli. It also shapes our sensitivity and how we respond to the feelings of others. What characterizes this factor is that we do not all react in the same way to the same things. That difference, that nuance, also shapes our character.

Some people have cold personalities and can not respond to the pain of others. There are also people who are more sensitive and do not think twice before risking their own lives to help others.

Activity

Each of us acts according to our values ​​and principles which we internalize and make our own. Still, and here we have one of the most interesting aspects of the subject of character, we are not all able to react to something we consider unfair or against our value system.

For example, if I work in a restaurant where a lot of food is left, I will put measures in place to ensure that the food does not end up in the trash. I want to make sure it ends up with people who need it. But

Resonance

Finally,  a fundamental factor in understanding how character is formed  is resonance. Resonance refers to the time it takes for us to react when we see or experience certain things. For example, I just came out of a dependent and unhappy relationship. After a few months, I meet someone with almost the same abusive personality as my former partner.

There are people with low resonance who can not interpret or react to previous experiences. They cannot learn from their past. So, they end up making the same mistakes over and over again. They get carried away, and they do not actively work to build a more dignified, strong and healthy character.

To conclude, as we said at the beginning, character is our most valuable virtue. Thanks to our character, we can keep our balance in times of adversity. It helps us to get out of bed every day, and to feel stronger, braver and more ready to do what we think is right.

We should invest all our energy in building our character so that we can be freer and, above all, happier.