I’m Grateful For Scarcity Because Abundance Came From It

I was like an insect trapped in amber. Emptiness reigned in my heart, it was a drought. You gave me breadcrumbs, with a love made of cobwebs, a house without furniture where plants were not watered.

But in the end, I appreciate your scarcity because I ran away from it to rediscover my own abundance. My strengths, my fullness…

From an emotional and even spiritual point of view, we can define abundance as a state of grace that reminds us that we have all – or at least most of – what we want and need.

It’s like vibrating at the perfect frequency where your emotions are in line with your thoughts.

Grateful for scarcity: Scarcity against abundance

On the contrary, poverty or scarcity is a sad common condition of being where resistance is created. Where we lack the mental and emotional openness where positive and rewarding change takes place.

Similarly, in addition to not having the internal, fulfilling harmony, “poor” people usually have the subtle ability to project their emotional poverty onto those around them.

You may have experienced this at some point. Going through life with a character with power with these qualities (whether your partner, a relative or even your boss), creates a climate of absolute scarcity.

Almost without realizing it, we are  trapped in amber, the toxic resin that lacks all nutrients, to the point that we let go of the basic nutrient of dignity…

The dynamics of scarcity, a very common condition

If we now ask what the most important way to live in abundance is, the answer could not be any simpler: emotional generosity.

However, there is nothing that is more difficult to put into use. Nothing has more nuances and dark corners than the concept of “generosity”.

Reason? We are used to thinking only of our shortcomings, and when we feel that “something is missing”, it is very difficult to “offer something”.

Now, with emotional generosity, we are not just talking about opening up to others to connect with them, comfort them, carry their burdens, or fill their hearts with  happiness. We also talk about being “generous” with ourselves.

Many of us have come to the strange, reactionary and unhealthy place of our conscience where we do nothing but think of everything we do not have, everything we lack. ( I do not feel valued, I do not feel as loved as I deserve, they do not value me at work, I feel alone and misunderstood… )

If we only expand these holes, we also plant the seed of frustration, depression and bitterness. Thus, with all this, what we are actually achieving is that we are completely blocking the law of abundance.

The law of abundance in romantic relationships

There are times in our relationships when we feel full. When we, as William Blake said, see the universe in a grain of sand, the sky in a wild flower and the infinity in the palm of our hand.

There is no doubt plenty. It is the perfect balance, where your emotions and mine, your dreams and mine, your values and mine, all rhyme and create the most beautiful poetry, our poetry.

This ideal state is not easy to come by, it is true. Because if there is anything about the power to break abundance in a relationship, it is emotional imbalance. Especially lack of generosity, both with ourselves and with our partner.

Let’s admit it, sometimes we throw ourselves into the arms of someone who’s not right for us. We do it with a hungry heart, blindfolded, where we long to be loved, but completely forget to love ourselves.

We stop being generous with our own selves to feed the other. But then we fall into a cycle of poverty, the prison cell of scarcity. We’re starting to think that being fed bread crumbs is okay. It’s better than nothing, as they say…

We say we are satisfied with so little that we forget that we previously wanted everything. Above all, we forget that love means abundance. That those who love you enrich you, and that those who “love themselves, take care of themselves.”

So let us remember that we have the responsibility and a privilege to be creators of our own happiness, and that something like this happens from the inside out.

Because abundance is nothing more than a feeling that encourages us to help ourselves, to be worthy of fulfillment, balance and the kind of love that does not hurt, but that helps us grow.

All photos in this article belong to Sonia Koch