Love Means Wanting To Be Together

Those who seek you out for an underlying motive do not deserve you. Their true interest is not you as a person, but what they can get from you. In their minds, you are a means to an end, not an end in itself. They will come up with a thousand and one ways to get what they want, and when they finally do, you will just be one more person on their list. You deserve so much more, you deserve true love. Love means wanting to be together.

Someone who truly loves you, does not need you, they prefer you. They choose you not only to use you to their own advantage, but to share their time and open their hearts to you. Their eyes and actions reveal them. Sincere love and feelings are obvious, and you can feel them.

Let’s explore the difference between someone who loves you out of self-interest and someone who loves you because they really love you.

True love is free from need and

Where love is present, it is more than a self-interest: it is a common interest. Instead of being needy, love gives us the will and desire to conjugate verbs in the plural. A person who truly loves you, chooses you for who you are and accepts everything about you, the good qualities and the bad ones. A person who truly loves you, tries especially hard to love even your mistakes.

Ultimately, someone who really cares about you does not care about the time of day you call them or the number of times you see each other, they are just there for you. They know you and they know that even when you smile, you can fall apart on the inside. Their only intention is to help you put the pieces back together.

A person who feels true love for you, shows you their feelings in small actions, without expecting anything in return. They are not motivated by self-interest, but by the well-being they feel when they make you smile or wrap you in a hug. And even when you get angry, they will try to understand you even though they think you are not always right because they put their relationship over small battles.

A person who truly loves you, wants to increase your happiness.

A person who is motivated by self-interest, believes that giving always means receiving, and will act accordingly. They will give you something, but in return they expect something in return. If you do not respond with the same coin, they will remind you and record everything they have done for you.
This is not love, it is to use others to your own advantage. A person who is with you out of self-interest only hides his selfishness, and will not hesitate to use emotional blackmail to get what they want. It is important to pay attention and keep your eyes open. It is the only way not to end up as a slave to their will and desires.

He who gives you his time, gives you life

The most beautiful gift that a person can give is to share their time with you. They give you their minutes, hours and seconds, and in turn a part of their lives. Those who love you know this well.

A coffee in the evening, short visits during the break at work, a conversation or a “Good morning” SMS… These are all actions that show love and gratitude from those who carry them out.

The person who gives you their time gives you a share of life, just because they love you, without expecting anything in return. They do it because they want to and because you are on the list of priorities and over those they care about. One minute is enough to tell you that you are important to him or her. Even a few seconds can be enough to put an indelible mark on your heart if those seconds are filled with meaning.

The person who truly loves you will share his time with you. He or she will be comfortable and calm spending time with you. Someone who does it out of self-interest will feel that they are wasting their time, therefore they will not always be available.

Be with those who give to your life, not with those who take

Someone who truly loves you, gives to your life, and someone who only loves you out of self-interest, will take from your life. Those who trade for their own benefit risk ending up alone.

Life is full of wonderful people, and also those who have not yet been able to wake up and feel what love and gratitude for others can give them. But you have the power to choose who you have relationships with. Do not forget that the person who really appreciates you offers without demanding anything from you. They give, they do not ask. They value you, they do not destroy you. Someone who truly loves you not only says it, they show it too.