Is Being Physically Unattractive A Barrier To Finding A Partner?
The bad news is that yes: being physically unattractive makes it a little harder to find a partner. The good news is that this little barrier on the other hand also prepares you. If you want it and put some effort into it, you can establish good relationships. But it’s entirely up to you.
Love is often like a supermarket, with supply and demand. The most popular products are attractive and have great recognition. Although we rarely talk about it that way, and although it is uncomfortable to remove love from its romantic and innocent attire, it is in practice the truth that a number of biological laws affect us as the living beings that we are. These laws favor some people more than others.
Those with these qualities have it easier on the love market, there is no doubt about it. But having it easier is not always better. Very often, this apparent power can work against you, and your weaknesses can become your strengths. Because, as Ortega y Gasset says…
Physical attractiveness: a longing for many who think they do not have it
Physical attractiveness is an arbitrary trait. Its definition speaks more to the person who perceives it than the person who is perceived. It does not depend on the person’s efforts, but on different anatomical standards, especially related to the face. On the other hand, each culture defines and influences what is beautiful and what is not. For that reason, it becomes the most important factor.
Physical beauty does not really affect society. It does not matter if people are beautiful or not. In the end, their appearance contributes very little to the progress of mankind as a whole. In fact, we have a large group of beautiful celebrities who contribute less to true beauty than the smaller group of geniuses, thinkers and heroes.
Some people are born beautiful, and others make themselves beautiful. In these times, attractiveness can be bought. Physical transformation of a person is a real possibility. It is achieved in operating rooms, in gyms, and thanks to thousands of products and procedures.
On the other hand, no matter how transcendental it may be for the development of society, people tend to be very concerned about how attractive their image is. In fact, there are people who are very anxious about it. Others fall into a depression pit, and many make a great effort to fight against the body’s desires to take care of their figures.
Physical beauty and relationships
Physical attractiveness is something that, as the name implies, attracts and provides benefits. It is called attractive because it is like a magnet for the attention of others. In this regard, it can facilitate the start of romantic relationships. In addition, being part of a beautiful couple is a sign of status, of value, especially in some cultures, and evokes erotic impulses more easily. It is a real barrier for those who are not so beautiful.
If a physically unattractive person wants to improve their chances of finding or choosing a partner, they can choose two paths. One is to fall victim to the logic of society, and the other is to walk around it. Anyone who allows themselves to be a victim of the situation ends up lowering their arms and hiding in their shell, which in addition to being physically unattractive, makes it easier for them to develop social habits that make them even less attractive. On the other hand, the one who accepts the challenge creates a different logic where they, with their attitude, manage to allow others to access and appreciate other types of qualities that make them attractive.
Physically unattractive and to love
One thing is for sure: although physical attractiveness opens the door to relationships more easily, it does not make it any easier to be in one. It’s just an advantage in the beginning. It can also be a problem for someone who is attractive to have other qualities that live up to the attractiveness, and if they do not, they may end up not living up to their partner’s expectations. In this sense, the relationship ends as easily as it started.
In truth, beauty is often just an absolute value in the minds of some young people, in those who have severe complexes or who are very isolated.
The world sends us many messages that are meant to make us believe that life is all about the beautiful, the rich and the powerful. This message is fed by people who profit financially from those who believe in them, who have an almost infinite willingness to sacrifice to get the beauty offered by that cream or the expensive exercise machine.
Yes, being physically unattractive is a barrier to finding a partner. But it is not a barrier to love and be loved. Nor is it the only thing that attracts or pushes others away. There are many more things over which we have greater control, such as our attitude or personality.
